I was so mad when this happened.
One week before I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, and 16 weeks after my second miscarriage, I was transferred internally from my recruiter role to a program manager role.
I had not asked for this nor wanted this to happen.
Recruiting is what I loved doing. I was good at it and I wanted to continue doing it.
That week, I made the choice to start interviewing at other companies for recruiter roles.
With three final in-person interviews and I ended up getting one offer.
I declined it.
Because of their (lack of) maternity leave policy.
So I decided to go back to my current job and do my best every day.
Because I had made the choice to stay.
It was now the circumstance that I was choosing.
Sometimes we play the victim about what’s happening to us at work.
But most of the time you have a belief that ...
You can’t get a job after a career gap.
You have to have a job to get a job.
You can't leave because of benefits/golden handcuffs/vacation time/etc.
The recruiters are to blame because they’re not giving you the feedback you “deserve.”
The black hole of resumes is confusing and bottom-less so why even bother… or worse, you send 100+ resumes/week.
And, if I were your career coach I’d tell you that none of the above is true.
And then I’d help you figure out what choices you have and the best way to move towards your goals.
As we come to almost two years of working in the pandemic, where do you see you need to make a new choice?
If you’d like to learn more about what choices you have, please send me a message and we can get you back feeling good about your job.
Love,
Nic
PS. I was super pissed when this happened to me at work and also embarrassed to talk about it. I didn’t tell anyone which I don’t think was the right move either. With that being said, if something shitty is happening to you at work, please reach out. You don’t have to deal with it alone.
PPS. Check out the latest podcast of “The Revelation Project.” Monica Rodgers interviews Amy McPhie Allebest about Breaking Down the Patriarchy. I think you'll learn a lot. When you finish, will you please message me your biggest takeaway?
