How living my best brunch life taught me about my values
It’s been 472 days since my last monthly brunch, friend.
For two and a half years, I had brunch at my house with friends from all areas of my life in San Francisco.
This started as an idea that came to me (and kept coming back to me in a whisper) that I postponed because of my repetitive parade of thoughts telling me that I wasn’t “good enough” to throw a regular monthly brunch.
When it was finally decided to turn down the volume on my inner critic’s playlist, brunch happened each month for two and a half years (!!!).
Two people showed up to the very first brunch. I also forgot to buy eggs for that brunch.
It was certainly a “failure” by attendance and planning standards.
But what I learned at this brunch and the twenty-seven brunches after that, was that by having this brunch, I was living in my values.
By creating these regular brunches, I stayed true to one of my most integral values: JOY.
The memories I have from these brunches make me belly laugh thinking about them.
We talked about our smart oven, our kissable tuxedo cat, and obviously, the founding of the Pool Club always came up.
My new apartment awaits our first brunch guests. Cheers!
The brunches lasted a couple hours and sometimes spilled over until 9pm.
What a gift to be in a community with people in my life.
When I think about my brunch now, I think of the wonderful times I had pre-pandemic and can’t wait to hug all my people again. (If you didn’t know, I’m one of the best huggers in the world.)
Very recently, I threw myself a virtual birthday party and JOY was a VIP guest.
My virtual birthday party with 45+ guests shaking their groove thang with the brilliant DJ Shammy Dee.
When I look back on moments in my life, I’m most proud of the times when I’ve listened to those urges no matter how confusing or how loud the volume is on my monkey mind.
I find that when my career coaching clients start aligning to their values, miraculous things begin to happen.
💰 Interviews appear at remarkable speed
💰 Negotiations take place and they get everything they asked for… and often more!
💰 New opportunities come into their lives that they weren’t expecting
I’m not kidding when I say, when you follow your values, the universe lines up with more opportunities in alignment with what you’ve said yes to and continue to say yes to (this happens the other way around, too.)
What is stopping you from listening to your urges and getting everything you want?
Take a moment to answer this: I have always had the urge to ___________, and I haven’t yet because __________.
You can use an example from your personal or professional life.
For me this would have been: I have always wanted to throw a regular party and hang out with my friends and I haven’t because I’m afraid that I’m not good enough and nobody will come.
I can't wait to hear what you've been craving.
Love you,
Nic
PS. When I begin working with a new private client, I send them the book, “Big Magic,” by Liz Gilbert because I think what really matters is following those urges of things that light us up, even if they don’t making any f*cking sense. If reading an entire book seems like too much right now, check this out instead (you can even speed it up if you’d like).
PPS. I have a secret project that I’m working on that I am so incredibly proud of and excited about.
